October 26, 2016
When you’re in bed with your lover, the last thing you want to do is turn
them off. That said, here are a few common blunders that you should
1. NOT KISSING
Believe it or not, many people (and this includes women) don’t kiss their
partner when they’re having sex. Why? Perhaps because the
positioning doesn’t allow for it or they are too eager to climax and feel
that it might break the rhythm. Nevertheless, it is highly recommended
that you make an effort to kiss your partner during the act – it will only
add to the experience.
2. BITING BEFORE YOUR PARTNER’S READY
While many people enjoy an aggressive partner, biting any part of their
body before they are aroused may lead to pain and discomfort (and
might even lessen the chances of any further action ) or simply scare
them off. So make sure your partner is fully excited before you bite their
ear, shoulders, neck or any other part of their body.
3. IGNORING EVERYTHING BUT SEXUALISED PARTS
Genitals are great, no doubt, but you should definitely pay attention to
other parts of your lover’s body and focus for some time on their entire
body – knees, wrists, back and stomach are highly erogenous zones for
men as well as women. Gently caressing these areas will help excite
your partner further; in turn, increasing the chances of them pleasuring
4. PUTTING YOUR WEIGHT ON YOUR PARTNER
Even if you’re a girl! It’s okay to lose yourself in the moment every once
in a while and go crazy on your lover. But when you’re lying on top of
them, you have to be careful not to drop your weight on them. Chocking
them or hindering their ability to breathe will anyway kill the moment
and any chances of some good action.
5. CLIMAXING TOO SOON/ TOO LATE
This one is especially for men. You need to have good control on your
muscles to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. Too
soon and you may leave your partner unsatisfied; too late and it might
leave your partner feeling as if they’re pumping iron at the gym. To
avoid this, spend a lot more time on foreplay (this will help men as well
as women). If you take too long and can only ejaculate via manual
stimulation, do your best to get your partner to orgasm and then they
can return you the favour.
6. NOT WARNING YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX
If you’re going to let go – and this applies even to women – whether
during oral sex or intercourse, you need to tell your partner beforehand.
Something as simple as “I’m going to let go,” will suffice. Your partner
deserves to know.
7. TREATING SEX LIKE PORN
Although some couples enjoy having raunchy sex, you’d be wise to talk
to your partner before you engage in such behaviour. If you begin being
nasty with your lover without knowing if they like it first, chances are the
scenario won’t end on a happy note.
8. STAYING QUIET
Do you like to hear it when your partner is having a good time? So pay
them the same respect and speak up when you’re enjoying yourself.
Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like,
“that feels so good,” will encourage them and educate them further on
your moan zones.
9. MECHANICAL ACT
It may feel comfortable to you to pump away like you do at the gym, but
you’ll quickly discover that most people don’t enjoy such an act. Mix it
up a little bit; go fast at times, then slowly. Be creative and you’ll find
yourself enjoying some variation too.