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Are you a Polyamorous ?

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Nov 23, 2016

What’s common between Woody Allen’s film ‘Vicky Cristina Barcelona’, Milan Kundera’s book, ‘The Unbearable Lightness of Being’ and Anais Nin’s ‘Henry and June’? Well, it’s the issue of polyamory, a term that owes its existence to Greek and Latin roots. To put it simply, ‘polyamory’ means ‘many loves’ or a non-monogamous relationship where you are involved with multiple lovers. Several researchers around the world are training their sights on this particular mode of relationship and they are also recording a rise in polyamorous relationships in several countries. Some say that it’s the future of romantic love, others say it’s just ethical non-monogamy where several relationship conventions are broken. In other words, three can be considered company sometimes! So if you feel you are polyamorous, ask yourself these basic questions and read the signs:

Difficulty in committing: Do you get anxious when the person you are in a relationship with presses for commitment? Do you always feel trapped in a monogamous relationship? Experts say that you should ponder over your past relationships and gauge what kind of commitment issues from your end had affected your relationships.

Loving more than one person at a time: Do you have feelings for more than one person at a time? For instance, you have a steady partner, but you find yourself getting into steady emotional relationships with other people as well.

It’s not just sex: Experts say that there’s a misconception that polyamorous relationships are just swinging with a strong accent on getting physical. But do you feel that you experience deep emotional connect with more than one person at any one point of time?

Need more: Do you feel that one person in your life cannot meet all your needs? Do you think you like being in relationship with more than one person because they challenge you and because you have varied needs?

Jealousy doesn’t bother you: Do you feel that you’d be perfectly fine if your partner sees other people? Have you wondered why jealousy doesn’t bother you that much? If you feel okay on hearing that your partner finds happiness in other relationships, you might be poly.

 

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A beginner’s guide to the woman-on-top position

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Nov 23, 2016

Nov 23, 2016

Being on top during sex has a lot of positives, including, but not limited to, taking control of the whole situation. So, the next time you are in the mood for sex, tell your partner you want to try something new instead of the regular missionary. We guide you with some easy steps to master the art of the woman-on-top position.

Set your position
Have your man lie on his back and get on top of him. Straddle his legs with your own until you are absolutely comfortable in your position.

Get in the mood
Once on top, there’s no need to hurry up. Take it slow. Indulge in some foreplay to set the mood. It’s also time to get rid of all your inhibitions and let your partner get a full frontal view of you in all your naked glory as he fondles your body.

Take control
You are in control of the situation, so make the most of it. You could try out some bondage, as well, by tying up his hands to the bed post. Be all over him, caressing, stroking, touching and kissing and watch him get aroused right beneath you.

Action time
Once you are comfortable with your position and you’re good and ready, help him enter you gently. Choose your own rhythm, and pick up the pace slowly.

Talk dirty
Turn the heat on with some dirty talking. You can even whisper some naughty nothings into his ears as both of you inch towards climax.

 

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Signs you have a rocking sex life

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Nov 22, 2016

No matter how long you have been in a relationship, if your sex life feels as good as new, you know you’re one lucky girl. Here are five ways to tell if you enjoy a fulfilling and healthy sex life.

You want to go back for more
Getting it on with your partner feels so good that you always want more. You don’t feel shy or awkward when it comes to making the first move, or when it comes to jumping at the chance to squeeze in a nookie.

You don’t keep count
Having sex twice a day, every day, isn’t your idea of a fun sex life. You don’t care if you go three days without it, but you know that when you do have sex with your man, it will be explosive, no-holds-barred amazing.

You feel great about your body
Your partner makes you feel like the sexiest woman on earth. The fact that the little extra flab on your tummy doesn’t bother him, enables you to enjoy an uninhibited sex life.

You aren’t afraid to say no
Having sex when you don’t feel like it is something neither of you do. You’re just as happy cuddling as you are in the throes of passion. You only have sex when both of you want it, which is almost all the time. But you also know there are slow days when you just want to chill.

You keep experimenting
You realise that in a long-term relationship, sex can get dull at times. But that doesn’t deter you from having an exciting sex life. You like to experiment, play out your fantasies and use racy words to spice it up.

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What to say or do to get better oral sex

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November 5, 2016

Ask and you will receive is a saying to be used in every aspect of your life,
including and especially in the bedroom. You don’t want to let an oral sex sesh go
to waste now, do you? Then while his tongue does the talking down there, take
over the reins and direct a show that is guaranteed to leave you breathless in a
good way.

Sext first: This move works like a charm since you are able to get each other
worked up even before you get your clothes off and he knows just what you want
in bed tonight.

Tell him where to go: It is a cliché for a reason: more often than not, your man
won’t ask for directions. So simply give unsolicited, clear directions. ‘A little to
the left here, slightly above… ah, perfect!’ Your reaction will be all the brownie
points he needed.

Sugarcoat the instructions: Think about it, you don’t want your moves to be
rudely corrected, do you? Use the constructive criticism rule: first compliment,
then criticise. ‘I really loved that thing you did there. This one doesn’t do much…
can you switch back to that move?’

Hand-play: Ever wondered what to do with those hands when your vagina is
getting some tender loving? Use it to play with yourself or gently move his head
to your sweet spot and ask him to go to town. The key word here is gentle,
though. You don’t want him getting injured mid-action.

You’ve got to move it too: If you find that words are failing you, lift your hips and
move it around until their mouth lines up where you want it. Not only does it get
you all charged up but your partner walks away with the taste of victory in his
mouth for having found that orgasmic spot himself. Win-win!

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Foreplay moves to master in bed

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November 5, 2016

If you have heard it once, you have heard it a thousand times over—foreplay, foreplay, and foreplay is what makes a great sex session. And we don’t just mean kissing. There’s a lot more to foreplay than just kiss-kiss-bang-bang, and it begins way before you hit the bedroom. Here are some moves to ace to make the pre-game as sexy as the grand finale.

Dirty talk: Get the game going at least an hour or so before the actual action begins. And not just sexts. To amp this up a notch, alternate between creating a sensual alter ego that lets him know just how you want things to unfold and being downright filthy with words. Or simply send him some heavy moan-laden voice notes with a text that says: the way you make me feel.

Hands-on love: Passionate kissing needs one extra ingredient to be added to the mix, aside from your lips and tongue—hands that freely explore your partner’s body. Caress, stroke, fondle, throw in some nail-scratching action and surprise pinches (not too painfully, though), or some spanks (if your partner is into it) too. The golden rule? You can’t stop the kissing!

Undress… slowly: Yes, the feverish tearing of clothes and stumbling into bed naked is hot. No two ways about it. But, why not make undressing a part of foreplay? Bite and leave a trail of kisses behind after each piece of clothing is removed. Alternatively, strip each other blindfolded and let your fingers lose their way on purpose.

Stop-start: You know that tantalising wait for something you desperately desire? Kiss his body and when you feel him tense up with excitement, ease up, part your lips, and exhale slowly. The change in temperature and intensity will cause him to writhe in ecstasy and you know how the rest follows.

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9 things you should never do while having sex

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October 26, 2016

When you’re in bed with your lover, the last thing you want to do is turn
them off. That said, here are a few common blunders that you should
not commit.

1. NOT KISSING

Believe it or not, many people (and this includes women) don’t kiss their
partner when they’re having sex. Why? Perhaps because the
positioning doesn’t allow for it or they are too eager to climax and feel
that it might break the rhythm. Nevertheless, it is highly recommended
that you make an effort to kiss your partner during the act – it will only
add to the experience.

2. BITING BEFORE YOUR PARTNER’S READY

While many people enjoy an aggressive partner, biting any part of their
body before they are aroused may lead to pain and discomfort (and
might even lessen the chances of any further action ) or simply scare
them off. So make sure your partner is fully excited before you bite their
ear, shoulders, neck or any other part of their body.

3. IGNORING EVERYTHING BUT SEXUALISED PARTS

Genitals are great, no doubt, but you should definitely pay attention to
other parts of your lover’s body and focus for some time on their entire
body – knees, wrists, back and stomach are highly erogenous zones for
men as well as women. Gently caressing these areas will help excite
your partner further; in turn, increasing the chances of them pleasuring
you back.

4. PUTTING YOUR WEIGHT ON YOUR PARTNER

Even if you’re a girl! It’s okay to lose yourself in the moment every once
in a while and go crazy on your lover. But when you’re lying on top of
them, you have to be careful not to drop your weight on them. Chocking
them or hindering their ability to breathe will anyway kill the moment
and any chances of some good action.

5. CLIMAXING TOO SOON/ TOO LATE

This one is especially for men. You need to have good control on your
muscles to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. Too
soon and you may leave your partner unsatisfied; too late and it might
leave your partner feeling as if they’re pumping iron at the gym. To
avoid this, spend a lot more time on foreplay (this will help men as well
as women). If you take too long and can only ejaculate via manual
stimulation, do your best to get your partner to orgasm and then they
can return you the favour.

6. NOT WARNING YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX

If you’re going to let go – and this applies even to women – whether
during oral sex or intercourse, you need to tell your partner beforehand.
Something as simple as “I’m going to let go,” will suffice. Your partner
deserves to know.

7. TREATING SEX LIKE PORN

Although some couples enjoy having raunchy sex, you’d be wise to talk
to your partner before you engage in such behaviour. If you begin being
nasty with your lover without knowing if they like it first, chances are the
scenario won’t end on a happy note.

8. STAYING QUIET

Do you like to hear it when your partner is having a good time? So pay
them the same respect and speak up when you’re enjoying yourself.
Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like,
“that feels so good,” will encourage them and educate them further on
your moan zones.

9. MECHANICAL ACT

It may feel comfortable to you to pump away like you do at the gym, but
you’ll quickly discover that most people don’t enjoy such an act. Mix it
up a little bit; go fast at times, then slowly. Be creative and you’ll find
yourself enjoying some variation too.

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10 sex tips from real women

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October 26, 2016

Men are often left wondering what pleases women in bed. We spoke to
real women to get you the scoop right here.

Kissing in erogenous zone

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Well-placed kisses go a long way in pleasing your woman in bed. Nape
of the neck or nibbling her ears excites her all the way to clitoris.

Dirty talk

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Do not restrict dirty talk to bedrooms. Surprise her with something
crazy and kinky when you are heading home from a dinner. Tell her how
you will play your fantasies later.

Pay attention to her boobs

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Women love men who know how to kiss, lick and bite her nipples. It
helps them achieve the best orgasms ever.

Let her take charge

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If you want a woman to please you, let her take charge. Women love
challenges in the bedroom and this will be exciting not only for her but
you too.

Shower sex

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We often hear about shower sex in fantasies. Play it out for her and you
will see her loosen all her inhibitions.

Porn fun

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Men can ignore this for as long as they want, but women love watching
porn.

Doggy style

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Yes, that indeed is a favourite position of many women. But make sure
you make it more adventorous by touching and grabbing her at all the
right places.

Don’t get comfy

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Don’t let the daily routine get on you. Grab her when she least expects it
– may be right after coming back from a long day at work. Nothing will
refresh her like a good sack session.

Try the flirt mode

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Women hate it when men turn sex into a monotonous act. Flirt with her,
indulge in foreplay and take time to get her in the mood.

Don’t hurt her

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Biting all the right spots is erotic but not when you end up hurting her in
the process. Be gentle yet experimental.

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4 sex adventures that are not for the faint-hearted

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October 20, 2016

There’s adventurous sex and then there’s sex that makes you go, ‘I can’t even…’ Do you have what it takes to experience these sexual adventures? Take a look!

Orgies
An orgy is a sex party characterised by free-flowing alcohol and no-holds-barred sexual revelry. If you ever attend an orgy, don’t be surprised if you see people indulging in open and unrestrained group sex. Think this could be your kind of social gathering?

Swingers club
Swingers clubs, or sex clubs, are groups that organise sex-related activities. Basically a club where you go to have sex with complete strangers in complete abandon. Can you swing it?

Suspension bondage
Forget vanilla kink and make way for suspension bondage. This is a type of hard-core bondage where a person is bound and hung from overhead suspension points. You can hang vertically, horizontally and in an inverted fashion, all of which are pretty freaky, honestly. But hang in there, you might just enjoy it.

Mile-high club
The mile-high club is an elite group of people who have had sex on an airplane. Pretty cool, isn’t it? This is usually a group of people who are aroused by the vibrations of the plane, or fantasise about flight attendants and/or pilots, or generally have a thing for airplanes. Get ready to be flown away.

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