Nov 23, 2016
What’s common between Woody Allen’s film ‘Vicky Cristina Barcelona’, Milan Kundera’s book, ‘The Unbearable Lightness of Being’ and Anais Nin’s ‘Henry and June’? Well, it’s the issue of polyamory, a term that owes its existence to Greek and Latin roots. To put it simply, ‘polyamory’ means ‘many loves’ or a non-monogamous relationship where you are involved with multiple lovers. Several researchers around the world are training their sights on this particular mode of relationship and they are also recording a rise in polyamorous relationships in several countries. Some say that it’s the future of romantic love, others say it’s just ethical non-monogamy where several relationship conventions are broken. In other words, three can be considered company sometimes! So if you feel you are polyamorous, ask yourself these basic questions and read the signs:
Difficulty in committing: Do you get anxious when the person you are in a relationship with presses for commitment? Do you always feel trapped in a monogamous relationship? Experts say that you should ponder over your past relationships and gauge what kind of commitment issues from your end had affected your relationships.
Loving more than one person at a time: Do you have feelings for more than one person at a time? For instance, you have a steady partner, but you find yourself getting into steady emotional relationships with other people as well.
It’s not just sex: Experts say that there’s a misconception that polyamorous relationships are just swinging with a strong accent on getting physical. But do you feel that you experience deep emotional connect with more than one person at any one point of time?
Need more: Do you feel that one person in your life cannot meet all your needs? Do you think you like being in relationship with more than one person because they challenge you and because you have varied needs?
Jealousy doesn’t bother you: Do you feel that you’d be perfectly fine if your partner sees other people? Have you wondered why jealousy doesn’t bother you that much? If you feel okay on hearing that your partner finds happiness in other relationships, you might be poly.